Onwards and upwards – Rachel’s Story

Hi ladies. I am 31 and my problems stared after I was sterilised three years ago. I was bleeding most of the time, in pain and bad pain and bleeding while having intercourse. I had to keep going to my GP who made me feel I was making a mountain out of a molehill until I saw a different GP when things moved fast.

I was referred to gynaecologist who was great and I had a laparoscopy which showed I had adenomyosis and was told the best treatment was a total abdominal hysterectomy because the problem was getting worse and my family was already complete.

I knew the answer was ‘yes’, anything to stop the pain getting worse. So, now I am three weeks post op and I feel so much better already. But the big problem for me is resting, I have three children thank God but having a 3 year old is hard work and it feels like I’m saying ‘no’ to them all the time.

I want to take them to the park and to do things but I am just too tired I hope this will get better because at the moment I can’t see it. My partner has been my rock but he is a man’s man and just doesn’t understand how I feel and if I get a pain/upset/moody he tells me I have to rest.

I don’t know about other women but I’m not a ‘stay at home’ kind of girl and I feel like I’ve got cabin fever. I am trying to stay positive and look forward to a pain fee life. I hope this helps people to know they are not on their own as I have found this website the best. Thank you.


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  1. Hi Rachel,
    I am 3 and a half weeks post op (total hysterectomy). Your words on ‘cabin fever’, really struck a cord!
    I am also very active running my 2 dogs daily, cycling and just generally being on the go.
    I feel I am going to turn into a blob! Like you I am really grateful to have had the surgery but keep trying to recognise the ‘old me’ as I don’t feel at all like myself.
    It’s raining so much this Summer which is keeping me indoors and not helping to lift the mood.
    Reading a lot which helps,
    , I have no permanent partner but my grown-up kids have been very supportive.
    I just want someone to reassure me that all will settle down and I will get back to the old me in the close future.
    Get tired and tummy feels achey towards end of day and bloats but not painful.
    Am I being too unrealistic by wanting to feel better quicker or am I just ‘normal’ no one can really tell anyone how or what they are going to feel. Find it helpful to read others stories.
    Thanks for listening, Nicky