Hi I am Mags, I have 3 kids (20, 18 and 16 years old) I am a scientist/ lecturer, I have a hippie-gypsy penchant, and I enjoy natural history walks, belly dancing (amateur) and cooking ( I am a Coeliac so most of my food is home made). Sparing you the details of the how & why I got there, I had a total hysterectomy (keyhole) in West Middlesex University Hospital at the age of 40.
A little background on the procedure which from my understanding implies filling the abdominal cavity with a gas (for visibility and maneuvering) making 1 incision inside the belly button for a camera and 3 others, cutting through skin, fat and muscle just above the bikini line, in order to sever the ligaments in the pelvic cavity to detach the uterus, fallopian tubes, cervix and whatever else needs coming out.
I got an infection 2 weeks after surgery, slept for most of the first 3 weeks (anaesthesia knocks me out), so I only started to feel human after 6 weeks post op. although even then the kettle felt like it weighed a ton! On my 6 weeks check-up my consultant looked please with her work and recommended that I should have sex regularly, I was quite shocked because frankly that was the LAST thing on my mind.
The first 3 months I didn’t attempt to drive much as my days were plagued with ophthalmic migraines where I would suddenly go blind for ½ hour to 45 min, which was sometimes followed by a cephalic (painful) migraine; praise the pharmaceutical industry for nurofen and paracetamol! I tried very hard to keep walking everywhere and built up strength slowly but really didn’t feel strong at all and not terribly motivated to exercise; getting a little housework done, little pelvic floor exercises and going to work would wipe me out and I was in bed by 9am most days with a heavy/ sore “undercarriage”.
Not sure if this is due to the stop in menstrual blood loss, but around 6-7 months post-surgery, I felt a surge of energy, nails and hair got thicker, longer and stronger. I was lasting longer at work and awake later at night and actually felt the need for exercise.
I read that post-hysterectomy, chances of bladder/internal organ prolapse are around 40%, I spent some time just pondering on that value and became quite obsessed about the position of my internal organs…and how these were held in place, .I am still dealing with this sentiment today.
I had no idea what I was allowed to do or not do, received little advise on long term after care from hospital, so I began searching. I am very grateful to Oz based physiotherapist Michelle Kenway who has plenty of great advice and YouTube videos for demo.
This is what I found out:
• Got to keep one foot on the ground always (got it!)
• No running (Yay!)
• No jumping/trampoline (aww shame)
• No crunches/sit-ups (Ok)
• No lifting heavy weight (ever again, like ever)
• No intense stretching (there goes the back bends in belly dance)
• No resistance training especially involving the abdomen (wow ok)
Instead of focusing on what I cannot do I began to try hard to focus on what I could do and made a list:
• Pelvic floor exercises (always and forever, something has got to hold this stuff in place inside and only muscles can do that job now!)
• Walk (can do this fast)
• Walk up the stairs
• Cycling is allowed but I loathe it, however, I like to scoot (I bought a micro scooter and built up distance slowly, it’s like a skate board feeling of flying the wind in your face but with the handle at the front for me to hang on to for extra stability and support, loving it and liking what it’s doing to my legs and buttocks muscles!)
• And ….dance (ok not like crazy but I can belly dance again slowly and following a few rules)
o No running
o No jumping
o No back bents
o No over stretching
o No intense body shimmy or at least not very long
Hey I can do that! …and I did, worked through scar tissue screeching, unused screaming muscles and put a routine together. In March 2015, just over 9 months after my hysterectomy I performed at my local belly dance show case a slow controlled veil dance; surrounded by my beautiful family and friends and I felt intense joy, freedom, empowerment and feminine for the first time in a long time.
Hysterectomy is a horrible procedure for any woman to have to go through but there is so much more on the other side, good luck with your surgery.
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